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Hi. I have been in a new relationship for about a year and I love her dearly. We used to have great sex and quite often. Now she just doesnt want to do it any more. I have tried a few times and she says she just doesnt want to. What do I do without making her angry by asking her. Please help...
whitegolf
Don’t panic! This is much more common than you might think. When a woman meets a hot guy she wants to hook up with her testosterone jumps through the roof. This means her sex drive becomes more masculine and she’ll get frisky at the drop of a hat just like you.
Unfortunately, or fortunately depending on how you look at it, mother nature decrees that after a period of bonking yourself stupid things return to normal in order that you can get on with the job of living your life. Can you imagine how little we would get done if we stayed as frisky as the first few weeks forever.
And this ‘getting on with life’ is where she is now stuck at!
For women the drop in chemicals can often be even more noticeable as their testosterone is usually lower than mens and they have the added nesting urge that makes doing the vacuuming and stacking the dishwasher about 8 points more appealing than shagging a horny hubby.
So the first thing to remember its not that she doesn’t want you or doesn’t find you sexy, its just that her body and brain have reverted to a ‘practical homemaker mode’, labelling the problems of her day more important than frivolous sex.
One thing to remember is that It’s impossible to lose your sexual energy, you simply redirect it into other areas, so your job is to learn how to entice it back.
There are several things you can do to rectify this, but they all take patience and understanding. Remember no one wants to be pressured into having sex. This will only make it worse. So your mission should you chose to accept it is to reinvigorate, in a clandestine manor, (without her realising you are doing it), her libido. And learn to master (control and express in other ways) yours, for the time being.
VERY IMPORTANT – All the following must be done with NO demands for sex and NO obvious expectations.
1. Get Away:- Take her away on holidays. Getting out of the house can be the best aphrodisiac. Stress is a sex killer
2 Rut Buster:- Re structure your days. Do things differently. Novelty boosts testosterone.
3 Chore Play:- Lighten her load. Take over some of her tasks to free up her time and help her relax. For a busy woman nothing is sexier than a man doing the housework so she can luxuriate in a bath.
4 Step Up:- Often when we live with a partner we slip into our ‘mother / son’ roles and become a little bit needy and pathetic. This is not exactly a turn on. So step up and look at ways to remind her what a resourceful stud you are. Dress like you used to, get out of the house, fix things, re-invigorate the power of the male energy in your life and watch her melt .
5 Max Relax:- Start learning the art of pleasuring her to pleasure you. Rubbing her feet or massage her neck and use the tantric techniques and breathing without her even knowing.
All Women love being touched just not always sexually, so make it your mission to find out all her hitherto undiscovered erogenous zones with absolutely no emphasis on your own satisfaction.
I know this ‘all about her’ attitude may seem more than mortal man can muster, but trust me it will be worth it. Your sex life with her and your own personal power will go through the roof, and if you set your mind to it, you’ll have fun in the process.
IF YOU HAVE A QUESTION - Email me Info@fixmylovelife.com.au
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