BREAKING UP - Geoff's To Do List

So here are the best actions to take
1) Give a few days Distance - Suggest you want to talk about something to allow for them to make emotional preparation

2) Pick a good place – Somewhere you can leave easily - Not to busy, not to quiet

3) Accept this is going to HURT - don’t run from the fact it will only see you backing down

4) Keep YOUR EMOTIONS in check. This is THEIR time to be upset not yours - Dont get angry, sad, horny, hurt, guilty or anything else - Just be gracious.

5) Agree to meet 2 days after - This gives time for a little calm and questions to be put for closure

6) NO CONTACT rule for 8 weeks - Its very important you cut ties totally no mater how much this hurts if you want them to have a clean break. Remember addiction is a powerful thing. A broken heart should be treated like any other addiction and 'emotional rehab' is the fastest fix for this. That means REMOVE YOURSELF completely from their life for this time period

7) They DON’T have to understand! - No amount of explanation is really going to make a difference. Give as much info as you can during your second meeting and leave it at that

If you would like to work thought your own situation email me ask@geoffbarker.info